THE ROAD TO A NEW LIFE
"The three keys to a good birth experience are
education, preparation, and a positive attitude."
Parents should be aware that a
complete and unique parent-child bonding process begins long before birth. It
grows throughout pregnancy, and is magnified after birth.
The best start on any pregnancy will be achieved within the
environment of a close, loving relationship and the shared desire to bring new
life into the world. Along with this, the smoothest transition into pregnancy
occurs when it is planned.
Well before birth, the child is a very intuitive
being, very much aware of environmental happenings and emotions that occur
beyond the mother's uterus. Loving communications with the baby, and a healthy,
positive outlook have a definite effect on the development and personality of
the unborn child, as well as the newborn.
Sincere love and nurturing can help the unborn and newborn child
develop into a well-adjusted, productive and happy person. The unborn child
benefits greatly when the family talks lovingly to it, shares many activities
with it, and gets to know the baby by using intuitive senses some people refer
to mother's intuition. The family must not feel self-conscious about doing
this, and should strongly encourage others to do so as well, for it is a very
natural and beneficial thing to do.
There are a number of steps that can be taken to see that the newest
member of your family has a wonderful first impression:
- Make the pregnancy a family
affair, involving all family members. This begins the bonding process and eases
the newborn's transition into the family.
- Contemplate and communicate how
you, as a family, want your birth experience to be carried out.
- Take care of your body during
pregnancy: eat sensibly, exercise, and rest. Make it a priority to break
detrimental habits - smoking, drinking alcohol, and drug consumption - before
you get pregnant.
- Find a qualified obstetrician who
is willing to listen to your desires, personalize the birth and prenatal
experiences, encourage family involvement, and show care and empathy for the
child and family.
- Do not be afraid to ask
questions. Your obstetrician should encourage questions, not avoid them.
- When you, the parents, have
decided what kind of delivery you want, consider changing doctors if you don't
see eye to eye with the care provider you're seeing. Stick to your convictions.
It's OK and it's smart to do this. Don't be afraid. Remember, it is your
birth experience, not the obstetrician's.
Visit the labor and delivery unit at the hospital where your
obstetrician delivers. Talk to the nurses. You can learn a lot from them about
the philosophies and techniques of various doctors.
- Create your own emotional environment through visualization,
meditation, and positive thinking. Positive attitudes and
thoughts create positive, joyful experiences. Look forward to them.
- Do not proceed with your birth
experience based on the negative influence of others. Move forward with an
open, loving heart. Let go of the notions and the well-intentioned advice from
others concerning labor and delivery. Do not talk yourself into expecting
- Work with Mother Nature, not